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Why We Didn't Fight and/or Tell
This is an area that we will try to help others understand why we complied and/or remained silent

We will do this by posting this question to the members of our forum, Your Sanctuary,
and allowing them to choose if they want to answer, and if they will allow us to use their display name (not their real name) to be moved here with their answer.

The obvious (or apparent) reasons:

A) The attacker threatened to harm us, or those we love.

"My attacker held a kn*f* and said he'd kill me if I told (I was 5yo)."
12/7/2010 - Cloud

"I was told that my parents would be told that I started the relationship, I was told that he would kill my brother and my parents. I was told that he would kill me and he nearly did a few times."
12/8/2010 - Broken

First incident. I was too young to know, but I did tell the police when I was interviewed. I didn't tell any one else because I thought it was over. Later, it was b/c I was ashamed.
Next, that incident I didn't talk for weeks after I left the hospital. I was scared, confused and disturbed . That is when I started my mental health problems.
Another incident I didn't tell because my aggressor was a minor. I didn't want to ruin his life, and I didn't want to be looked down upon if I pressed charges.
My history with DV (Domestic Violence) was solved when the guy went to jail, and I have and do talk about it.
12/9/2010 - Anonymous

B) The attacker was a person that we were supposed to trust.

The obscure (or hidden) reasons:

A) The attacker belittles us by saying we deserve it and using vulgar names

B) The attacker convinces us that no one will believe us.

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